Dating girl for 2 weeks
She is dating several other men and she needs time to get everybody on the schedule. She is making out with you and probably making out with the other men she dates. I give her credit for not sleeping with you as she could be sleeping with the other men. You don't want sloppy seconds or a recently used vagina.
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The fundamental problem with multi daters is that they have to lie to make room for all the extra dates. She is playing you and a bunch of other men. I believe multi daters are at risk of being cheaters when they are in a relationship. Furthermore multi daters may have problems in connecting with you for a relationship because they are also trying to connect to other men. This sort of multitasking dilute your efforts when you date her.
Stop calling her and find a girl that is truthful. A woman and a man who date can also date others without being judged.. Who says that agreeing to go to dinner means that they can only go to dinner with you? Exclusivity in dating does indeed happen but after more than a few dates As far as Pierre's version of a woman dating more than one guy..
I've run into this quite a few times. Telling me "we'll see", when I try to set up a date. I don't have time for this, especially if it lasts more than a few weeks. Neither do many men. At what point do they stop dating these other men? Plus, I am not a one man meal ticket. They want me to take them to lunch, but not dinner? No, go get your own food for your date that night with "whoever". It's all conjecture as to why, you will have to ask her to find out, which you should consider.
What probably isn't conjecture is that she isn't interested in a relationship with you.
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There are exceptions, but few, people who are interested in someone generally make a way to see them more than once every two weeks, no matter their other activities. In your shoes I'd move on and find more interested prospects. Originally Posted by RedRobin. All times are GMT The time now is 8: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number.
Contact Us - LoveShack. Add Thread to del. Dating Dating, courting, or going steady? Things not working out the way you had hoped? Stand up on your soap box and let us know what's going on! Page 1 of 6. Girl only wants to date every two weeks? Originally Posted by mike88 she asks me a lot of personal questions about myself relationship history, ambitions etc. Originally Posted by Professor X A girl who wants to date you once every 2 weeks, dates every week. Originally Posted by westrock What do you know about her relationship history?
Originally Posted by persevere She wants to date every two weeks? Originally Posted by mike88 I'm stuck in a cycle with this girl I've been dating for about 3 months where she only wants to meet up once every two weeks. So I think you should tell her it's bothering you. Don't run for the hills, but stop "playing it cool" when obviously it's not cool for you. If you have intentions of dating her long term and falling in love with her, you need to communicate healthily and efficiently.
I wouldnt worry too much about it.. Tell her that you don't know how you feel -- you've barely started seeing each other -- but that you're intrigued by her, and want to get to know her better. That you want to investigate the adventure which is her. It's too soon for meeting parents. No parents until she's heard you belch and still likes you. If so, nothing's really changed. She was obviously feeling it already You said yourself you intended to long term date her. Had this happen once in college and I had to tell the guy it wasn't gonna workout bc we were on two different pages.
I like to feel like we are progressing at somewhat the same rate. I was fine with someone liking me more but I he started hinting at it and I said please don't say that, it's way too quick and he didn't trust that it wasn't want I wanted. Ask her to slow down and see how she responds? I mean, I think you're handling it fine so far. You were honest with her that it's too soon for you to feel or express love, and she indicated that she understands.
As for your other concerns meeting the parents and being FB official! I don't think either of those are particularly menacing in and of themselves. But it's a good opportunity to have a conversation and suss out actual red flags. If it's too soon for you, that's reasonable. It's a good opportunity to say "look, things are moving a little fast, can we wait a couple months to see how this is working out? With my husband and I, we were FB official the day after our first date, and I met his parents a week later.
It just meant that we were both feeling the relationship and wanted to get to know each other better. His parents are important to him, and he was excited about me. But sex and "I love you" came months later, and we definitely didn't rush other relationship milestones.
People are different, and if you like this woman, I wouldn't overreact. Someone dropping the L bomb two weeks is a horrible sign. If they will fall in love with you that quickly, before they even know you, then they are liable to fall in love with someone else just as quickly. It also indicates a lack of maturity. It's a red flag but there's not much you can do about it besides cautiously continuing. It's not worth taking any action over. If it's solid then don't miss what I would call an opportunity.
I bailed when I got hit with the L word immediately after intimacy, and she has been happily married to someone who didn't for over 6 years now.
My BF told me as well after two weeks. I apologized and said I need to discover all on my own time. I Told him I loved him when I felt it myself. Before him I was dating someone for 2 years and never said "I love you", so I was somewhat freaked out about it, but then again, nothing changed after he said it. I don't think it's as big of an issue as people make it to seem. And it's more nice than anything else. I sometimes say still "can't believe you said I love you after 2 weeks", and he just says "I just knew so soon and didn't want to force myself to keep it inside".
I told my husband I loved him very early in the relationship. He didn't respond at all. Then I said "Oh too soon? I said something like "Oh alright I'll wait until the appropriate amount of time society thinks is reasonable. I didn't say those words again until after he said it to me, which I think was a few months later, can't remember. Anyway, I wasn't a psycho obsessive stalker. I was just feeling the happy love hormones and wanted him to know how great I felt with him.
If you've had sex then I don't see why it wouldn't be okay to say the L word. I don't see a need to be worried. And I wouldn't pull the plug over it. However, I see nothing wrong with asking her to wait a little longer before saying it on a regular basis. I'd seriously question what the concept of "love" means to someone if they'll tell someone that after two weeks.
To me, telling someone that I love them is immensely meaningful, and I find it challenging to think of a two month timeline where I could know someone well enough to breach that let alone two weeks.
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If she means "love" in a different way I do, and it's a "translation" issue, fine, we can talk about it, but I would call this a red flag no doubt. It could have been habitual after having sex, especially if it was good. Which would explain why she said it and then apologized. However, her declaring she meant it could have been because she didn't want him to think she'd chicken out of the relationship. Yeah, one thing if it's in the heat of the moment, or in a cheeky sort of way, but just a straight up normal relationship first confessional "I love you?
If she follows it up with "well I see the concept of love in this certain way, and I find that I have a lot to give etc etc" or whatever, fine, but if it's "I've loved two other people in this way in my life. I met you two weeks ago, and this is crazy, but here's my number, I love you definitely. Also from a female perspective, I would absolutely not be comfortable with a guy saying he loved me after two weeks. I would worry that he either didn't know what love was or was a very clingy or codependent person. I'm not saying that your feelings or wrong at all.
Just want to indicate that there's more than one female perspective. I wasn't trying to say that all females feel the way I do, I was just offering my take on the subject. Which is why I said a female perspective.
As a female I'd be horrified if a man I slept with a few time over the course of 2 weeks told me he loved me. From another female perspective I think it's really weird to fall in love after two weeks, regardless of whether or not you've had sex Just let her know you need to take it a little slower on the emotional side. She might need to take it a little slower on the physical side as a result. Just talk it out. You two are the only ones who can decide what feels right in your relationship. Love means different things to different people, and the word carries more significance to some than others.
I told my boyfriend I loved him long before he told me, but I think I mentioned something about how much I love pizza. For me it's just a word. There's nothing wrong with finding the word as meaningful as you do, but it's pretty condescending to say things like "she doesn't know what love is" just because she uses the word differently than you do. I would call this a little difference between the two of you, have a conversation with one another, and continue moving along with your relationship regardless of what that word means to y'all.
Getting attached very quickly can be a sign of an abusive relationship. While I was initially uncomfortable, I decided to see where things went, and yeah, they went very well. I don't think you have anything to worry about unless she starts pushing to get married, move in or have kids with you in the near future. Anything that can lock you down to her before you get a chance to get to know her properly.
Otherwise, just ride it out and you can return the words when you feel them too: I blurted out 'I love you' way too soon to my now husband when we first started dating, also after sex. I also took it back quickly-- I DID love him at the time, but I also realized I got caught in the moment it was too soon to say it.
We exchanged 'I love you's properly probably less than a year into the relationship and he's my husband now so it worked out. I think you're freaking out a bit too much, honestly, if everything seems the same. Just take her statement as a statement, don't try to guess and figure out her feelings for her. You don't have to say it back, you can just say, 'That means a lot to me.
I'm afraid of moving too fast, but I do like you a lot too'. Just go with the flow and feel it out by her actions. Uhhh, just saw this, probably should put this is your OP. Definitely mention the bit about feeling like you're moving too quickly. Both 1 and 2 are not quite good Maybe she likes you. Don't lie just tell her you aren't there yet. See where things go. There is no harm. I would bet money she has just gotten out of a long-term relationship and you are the rebound. She is rushing everything because she feels so insecure not being that deep in a relationship and sharing deep intimacy with someone like she is used to.
I said "I love you" to my boyfriend way too early in the relationship and I didn't exactly understand what I was saying at that time. For me, it was just a way of telling him that he makes me happy, I enjoy his company and he's a lovely human being. I can't quite recall what his reaction was or when exactly he told me he loved me because I was just expressing my feelings - had no expectations in return.
I was a happy soul. It didn't occur to me that I wasn't supposed to say the L-word this early, that it freaks men out. In fact, I'd even forgotten about this, when a few days ago he joked about me saying "I love you" to him within less than a month or two of dating. I was kind of embarrassed, thinking how naive I was.
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Frankly speaking, I fell in love with him much later and I'm glad he didn't run away from me. The key-point here is that love can mean something totally different to her, and she may have been carried away by the emotions she felt at that time. Or she's just excited to be with you. Don't be too quick to pass up something based on a single instance. Two weeks is too soon for love. Infatuation, sure, but love with someone you don't know very well?
If you don't want a relationship then you should break up with her asap. It's unfair to keep her around knowing this. To me, it's a massive glaring red flag. I would call a person like this too emotionally immature and dependent to consider a good partner. I believe what she's talking about is a mockery of real love.
This is puppy love. She's old enough to know that. But really there's nothing 'wrong' with it, it all depends on what you value in a partner. I value pragmatic partners with emotional honesty, so obviously, I think puppy love is stupid. It entirely depends on you. I've only ever truly loved 2 people. One of those people I fell in love with on our first night meeting. We had sex, and I just knew.
We ended up dating and living together, and it didn't work out. But even looking back years later, I really did love him from day one. That's only happened to me one time though. Love is a weird thing sometimes. She shouldn't have told you that soon, but she's not a total nut job either. Sometimes you just know. I dated someone for literally 4 days before he told me he loved me. That freaked me out immensely. We only lasted a month because I immediately saw his flaws and negative things that peeved me - the stuff that happens when the honeymoon is over.
But sometimes when you know you know. I think sex and a tiff must happen before you can fully decide if you love someone or not. If you can handle the other person and still care for them after those two things happen, then you'd be okay with saying the big L word. My advice would be to just go on with your normal life with her.
If you begin to see the flaws and such that happen when the honeymoon phase is over, it's easy to get out of that early on at least. But hopefully it's just because she thinks you're a great person and feels comfortable enough telling you how she feels. It might be scary, but ASK her what she meant by that. How much have you been hanging out within those two weeks? If it's been every day for two weeks, maybe it wouldn't be such a crazy thing to say. If you've hung out just a couple times, definitely weird. A friend of mine met a guy, started dating him within a week, and they moved in with each other after a month of dating, which is kinda crazy but seems to be working for them.
They hung out all day every day, and I guess got to know each other quickly enough to know they could love this person long term. She barely knows you but she thinks she loves you. For all she knows you make coats out of puppies in your spare time. This is generally not a good sign. She may be feeling love but the object is not you, it's the version of you she's invented to fill the gaps in her knowledge of you. Things may get bad fast if you turn out to be someone other than who she imagines you to be. Gently give her a timeline. Tell her there's no rush and you want to know everything about her because you want to appreciate all the facets in her personality.
This talk is very very necessary. Put all the breaks on meeting parents etc. She might be immature and thinking that's how relationships go especially since her model might be teenage ones where I love yous are thrown causally but you don't to tolerate it. The earliest I used love was maybe 1. And it was "I think I'm not in love with you yet, but if we had more time, I would be. Followed by getting more time and confirming at 2. Let's be real, if a girl says she loves you in two weeks don't take it too seriously.